Everyone Agrees - Seize the Day! - Teaching Tuesdays

All the experts -secular and Christian- agree that we need to seize the days when our children are young.  "Children's lifelong morals and values are determined at an early age." (Most say before the age of 6.) This quote is the main focus on the homepage of a secular site for online stories that teaches morals. The stories are great for entertaining little ones and teaching very basic morals at the same time. Go to myyoungchild.org for more info.

The older your kids get, the less influence you have over them. Quit making excuses! Make the moments count! Mold your wet cement! These moments are fleeting! I think you get the point. You don't have to make some grand detailed curriculumn to teach your kids character. It can be as simple as explaining to them why you do what you do while you are doing it, celebrating the holidays from a Christian perspective, or reading them a story with a Christian message or moral before bedtime.
Now, let us all go and seize the day! 

Mini Me - Mom Mondays

       The wonderful and frustrating thing about our children is that they are mini versions of ourselves. If you find yourself "butting heads" with one of your children more than the others, it may be because they are the most like you. From my conflicts and observations of my most spirited and particular child, I have learned things about myself that I had never realized before - good and bad.
           My exhortation to you and myself today is to use these realizations as positive learning and growing experiences instead of fuel for irritation or self-loath. Think upon the blessing that similarities create great bonding opportunities whether it is enjoying similar fun activities or working together to become better at common flaws. Also, you can be grateful that you understand their feelings and their perspective on life; therefore, are able to respond to and help them deal with situations better. Lastly, it is self-affirming to see in their endearing personalities, that you do have many positive characteristics that you have passed onto them as well.
P.S. On a funny side note, I found this unique website called 1minime.com, where you can actually send them a photo, and they will make a personalized bobblehead doll from it for about $65.00.  I am content with having my daughter be my mini me.

Focus - Fun Fridays

     God developed us girls with the great ability to multi-task knowing that this is a key survival skill for moms.  However, if we are always flitting from one thing to the next, many things get worked on, but not much gets completely finished. When I continually go day to day surviving, but not getting anything completely checked off my list, I start to feel overwhelmed and frustrated. My natural inclination is to make grand plans and lists of all the things I am going to complete the next day, which only leads to more frustration. Before I totally freak out, my wise and loving husband steps in to encourage me with his amazing ability to focus. His advice is, "Just handle all the things that come at you daily (such as daily care of the children, mail, phone calls, etc.), then try to get one additional thing done - just one."  This doesn't sound like much, but you will be surprised at how fast your 'to do' list shrinks if you consistently stay on top of the daily tasks and just add one extra thing everyday. The 'one thing' could be big or small - talk to your seven year old about responsibility while you do daily chores side by side, clean out the refrigerator, visit with your great grandmother on the phone, organize your closet, make sure you connect on a deep level with your preteen, finish one conversation with your husband, etc.
       What are you going to focus on this weekend?  Since there are three days counting today, I am planning three things this weekend - 1. for fun and relationship building- let them pick one fun activity for me to do with them 2. for learning - give the person who can go the longest without complaining or whining a prize, and 3. for household maintenance - try to find the surface on my desk.  I would love to hear what 'one thing' you are going to focus on soon, or any methods that you use to help you be more effective in your home. Have a great weekend!

Don't Judge Me - Wise Wednesdays

    My sweet, sweet friend Paula Hand posted the above quote on facebook yesterday.  A new column entitled "Don't Judge Me" in a popular parenting magazine is a huge success, because so many of us are feeling a bit convicted by this quote. I have always felt completely comfortable and accepted by Paula, and now I know why.  Unlike the average female, she is never judging me, or focusing on my faults. She is only loving me for who I am.  Father, please help me to focus on loving the positives in others - encouraging them to be the best that they can be- and leave the judging to You. Only You know the whole heart story behind every person and the struggles and blessings they are currently distracted by.  I want to be an example to my children of one who unconditionally loves, assumes the best, and overlooks shortfalls in others.  Yet I also want to continually search my own life for weaknesses and strongholds that need to be removed.  Father, please help me overcome my giant blindspots ('the beam in my eye') in order to see more clearly to help others.  (Luke 6: 41 & 42)

Giving Up - Guest Blogger Tara Hicks

See how happy we
can be when we give up on
keeping things perfectly clean?

We are now 2 months into the new year and if you are like me, your New Year's resolutions have now been packed neatly away with the last box of Christmas decorations that were in a heap in your garage.

There is one resolution that I am still feeling good about though. I'm holding to it...

2012 is my year of giving up...

By the end of 2011, I found I was tired...REALLY tired.  Now, some of that was due to the three children - 5, 2, and infant living in my house; however, I realized I brought much of that exhaustion on myself with a large spoonful of guilt.  I had been killing myself to keep the house and laundry perfectly cleaned and dinners perfectly cooked. I was getting so caught up in the never-ending-ness of my jobs as house manager that I was miserable.  I was constantly barking at my family to pick up and clean up.  I stopped inviting people over because I was too tired to do a complete cleaning, only to have to clean up again after they ate a high preparation meal that broke our grocery budget.

So my solution for 2012 was to resolutely give up - okay, it is more of a letting go of my idea of perfection.  I still try to keep the toilet relatively clean and my house straightened, but with the understanding that I have 3 young kids that are constantly getting into something. My friends understand this reality. I have found that if they are greeted with a warm smile, warm cup of coffee, and a simple coffee cake, they don't even notice the dirty dishes in the sink, or a few crumbs on the floor.

Letting myself off the hook of perfection, has helped me realize that managing my home properly is more of a heart issue than a physical issue.  My heart is now more geared to grace and mercy (for myself and others) and less on control and perfection.  My family is happier. I am happier and more rested. And really, I think I might be getting almost as much done as before.  Whew... who knew giving up could look and feel so good?

- Tara Hicks is a military wife,  stay-at-home mother of three, colossal crafter, cooking genius, and friend extraordinaire.  Thanks for sharing Tara!

On Tara's suggestion, I am going to give up my perfect record of blogging every weekday since the beginning of the year. From here on out, I will blog 2 to 3 times a week! What are you going to give up that is not necessary, but that you are holding onto just for the picture of perfection? Seek God's direction in what He thinks you should let go of. 

Free Book! and Fun with Scriptures - Fun Friday

      Pick one of the 'one-another' verses we talked about on Wednesday and take some time this weekend to have fun with your kids and the Scriptures. There are whole books on the idea of teaching your children the Scriptures in fun ways, my favorite one is Hide It in Your Heart by Gloria Gaither and Shirley Dobson.  Here are some basic ideas you can run with:
   1. Word Games - Write out Scripture verses and then make a puzzle out of it - crossword puzzle, word find, etc. There are computer programs for all of these online.
   2. Hide and Seek Game - Hide each word of the verse in a different location, making the children repeat the verse every time someone finds a word.
   3. Acting - Have your kids write and act out a play that demonstrates a verse.
   4. Crafts - Illustrating a verse helps them understand it better. Make any kind of framed art, markers on a pillowcase, playdo sculpture, etc.  Or you can just write the words to a verse in a decorative way - stencil project, cross-stitch, bubble letters, etc.
   5. Music - make up your own song, find one on itunes, or download a Christian artist. Steve Green and the Hide 'Em in Your Heart series are my favorites.

******Important Announcement! On that note;) Congratulations Julie Wenning! You are the winner of the drawing for the Steve Green CD/DVD combo!  Contact me to claim your prize! There will be another drawing this month.  All you have to do is comment on my blog anytime in the month of March to be entered in the drawing that will be announced on the first of April!)

    I would love to hear about any of your fun ideas for Hiding God's Word in Your Child's Heart.

Friendtentional- Guest Blogger Kristin Cook



Diane, Saradee, Whitney, and Kristin

 I am so thankful that I have such wonderful friendships at this stage in my life. I can’t imagine going through ‘mommy-hood’ without them. My friends bless my life through shared  stories, encouragement, help and prayer. However, in the busyness of life, sometimes those friendships can go unattended. Friendships need maintaining, time and effort, in order to grow. Often with all the social media available, we see posts or recent happenings with friends and feel like we are up to speed with what’s going on in their lives and therefore don’t invest in face-to-face time. I have been challenged this year to be more intentional in building closer relationships. Less Facebook time and more face-to-face time. More scheduling fun, girly lunches and/or hosting girls' nights. More good conversations during playdates and coffee dates after the kids are in bed. Friendships are such a blessing and I want to make sure I’m making an intentional effort to give support and encouragement to my friends!

Do you have any great ideas about how to be more friendtentional (intentional about supporting and encouraging your friends)?  We would love to hear about them.

- Kristin Cook owns her own amazing photography business (KristinCookPhotography.com), and is a mother of three young children. She is also a wonderful example of someone who is friendtentional!Thanks for sharing, Kristin.